Celebrating Christmas with children means happiness, smiles, magic, stories and, of course, Santa Claus.
As parents, we want December to be special in many ways.
We want to teach Gratitude, we donate and remember the less fortunate families.
We move the Elf every night and enjoy the little faces when they find how mischievous this little Elf can be.
We send letters, cards or text messages to family and friends, near and far, who hold a special place in our hearts.
We hide presents, sometimes for weeks, and wait until Christmas morning to place them under the tree that we decorated as a family.
We tell many stories about Santa Claus and children wait for him every year.
But, what happens when your little child grows up and starts asking questions about this man in a red suit?
He doesn’t fit in the chimney, and it’s impossible to deliver presents to children around the world and why would you think that reindeer can fly?
This happened to me this year.
My oldest daughter was asking too many questions about Santa Claus (clever questions I have to say) like “Do you think Santa Claus has Amazon Prime?” or “Do you think Santa has an email account?”
Followed by comments including “there is no way Santa can go from Asia to America and stop at every house in one night.” Also, other children at school were telling her that Santa Claus doesn’t exist.
I knew it was time for me to tell her “the truth,” so I decided to do a little research on how others have done this.
I spent a few days reading and decided to do it this way.
How I told my daughter Santa Claus is not real
I took her out for ice cream one afternoon, we had a mom and daughter date.
This is what I said:
This year you accomplished so many things. You learned a really challenging piece on your violin, you started 4th grade. I see you help your little sister when she is struggling with reading. You offer help to your grandma when she is cooking.
Your heart has grown as well. You can tell when someone is sad and you try to make them happy, you are always willing to learn new things and your father and I are really proud of you.
It is time for you to be Santa Claus. Only the boys and girls that are ready get to have this special job.
You see, your dad and I are your Santa Claus and now you get to be one as well. You will deliver a present to a family member, a friend or a neighbor without them knowing it’s you. This will be your special job every Christmas.
My daughter was so proud and happy to have this job that she could not believe it.
There are many ways you can tell your kids about what really happens on Christmas day.
After having this conversation with my daughter, I feel like we connected in a different way, now we get to be partners in something great and meaningful for other people.